On infatuation

I read a facebook note about it, talking about how infatuation defies logic and shouldn't be acted upon; and that if you're infatuated with someone you should cold turkey yourself out because OH NO YOU'RE GONNA DIE IF YOU DON'T. What I don't really get is how everybody thumbs down infatuation so quickly; It's a completely biological thing, it's natural and it's instinctive - meaning that nature is telling you to get some, and personally I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with that.

Sure, it's illogical and irrational - you could be crushing over somebody who's squeezed the life out of everybody they've dated, know that it would be a pretty fucking stupid idea to go after them, but still think that there's a possibility of it working out. That doesn't mean that it isn't completely unfounded, there's something there that attracted you to them.

Whatever I think is wrong is the cockshit ways people deal with it such as doing absolutely nothing and obsessing over whats-her-face for long periods of time, which leads to figuring that infatuation a bad thing and that they shouldn't be having those feelings.

Maybe they already think that it's immature and stupid and force themselves out of it within a week of noticing it's there, leading to their lifetime of virginity and unintentional celibacy. They don't want to get into a relationship based off something as temporary as infatuation and want to be 'in love' before they commit without realizing that it's damn near impossible to be 'in love' without having any initial interest or spending time with somebody first.

There are only ever 2 ways of getting out of an infatuated situation: acting upon it, or getting friends to smack the person in question out of it.

"But Justin! You just told not to force myself out of it!" they cry in the soggy, desperate voice of a person who has never been in a relationship. No, I said not to be forced out of it too early; but also not to wait year or more before deciding on what to do because by this time anybody's gonna be in a spot where they're stuck between knowing they have absolutely no chance and being too obsessed to snap out of it.

What I think people have to learn to deal with is that to properly deal with infatuation is to grow a large enough pair of balls (or just a spine, I guess, for fear of being sexist) to find out for themselves where they're going with it. Still, if at some point between here and total obsession they realise that no matter what happens they're gonna get screwed, they may opt for sucking it up and letting their friends beat them into submission euphemism completely unintentional. This is an equally manly way to deal with it and is way better than moping about for ages and missing countless other opportunities for relationships.

Another way to snap out of it is to do something about it with the knowledge that it's not gonna work out, to dis extinguish EDIT: Why the fuck did I write 'dis'? any lick of hope there may have been left. It may sound sad and depressing, but there's no catch here, it is! Deal with it! A couple of weeks being sad and then it's back to being... un-sad? Un-sad. Barney once said that whenever he starts feeling sad, he stops and starts being awesome instead - this is the example you want to follow, cause generally, being awesome is better than being obsessed.

I guess what I'm trying to say is that the note was fucking stupid and no, cold-turkeying your way out of a crush is by no means the best way of dealing with it unless you're absolutely sure that you have no chance, simply because you won't know for sure till you find out for yourself; and though temporary, infatuation can lead to things that aren't. Grow a spine you cowardly asshole.